Loved your comment about being SURRENDERED to your season of motherhood. AMEN.
I was going through goal planning and found myself seeking unrealistic goals for this season. I had to ask myself “what is the *feeling* I’m trying to attain with this goal?” By identifying the feeling I was pursuing I was able to make different, attainable, smaller goals that put me one step closer to that feeling.
Ugh such a good reminder, Kate!! I am excited to dive into some goal setting and intentionality as the new year rolls in. I love your digital habit tracker and have been using it for a year now. I'm going to set aside a whole morning next weekend for me to do some goal setting and visioning for the year. Your video that you shared about will be how I start/prep for it!
MADISON!!!! You were randomly selected as the winner of the monthly giveaway! I'll shoot you an email in the next day or so to arrange shipping ◡̈ ◡̈ ◡̈
Today is the perfect time to be talking about this - right before everyone sets beautifully ambitious New Year’s resolutions. To your point, we should have big dreams, but sometimes we need to be more honest with ourselves about the season we are currently in and what’s possible. It’s so demoralizing to set yourself up to fail before you even start.
There aren’t many words of wisdom that I carry with me from the corporate world, but one that I do is “we always overestimate what we can achieve in a year, and underestimate what we can achieve in five years.” Sometimes seasons of our lives fit in this framing.
I needed this desperately today! It feels like I woke up and my firstborn had grown from “baby” to “toddler” overnight, and I’ve struggled to adjust my expectations for what my life will look like. But this is a great reminder of something my dad used to say to me: We can do *anything* we want, but not *everything* we want! So making goals to cook more, move more, read more, make career moves, get involved in the community, AND still be the mother & wife I want to be? Notttt gonna happen.
Instead I think I will focus on ~balance~ as my inspo word for 2025. Read once a week, batch cook once a week, move my body 5 minutes, meditate 5 minutes, STUPID SIMPLE goals. But also giving myself grace because, HOLY MOLY, I’m a mother now and my life has changed more in the past 14 months than in the previous 5-10 years combined 🫠.
I am one of the weirdos who love the newborn stage, but i found the sort-of-baby/sort-of-toddler stage SOOOO hard! That was def my toughest stage of parenthood with Miles so far. No advice, but just sending solidarity & encouragement. You've got this!
This landed in my inbox smack bang when I needed it! Hubby and I are having a lunch date tomorrow (first actual ‘date’ out together since having our little boy a year ago…) and I’ve told him I want to use some of the time to set some goals and areas of focus for 2025 together- this is exactly what i needed reminding of to make sure we keep ‘em attainable and realistic for our season of being thick in parenthood with two little ones! Thank you! 🙌🏼
Thank you for this reminder! I’m having to adjust some of my goals for the new year because of things going on in life currently, so this post inspired me to adjust accordingly!
This is such a good mindset to have toward making goals for the new year! I’m in a busy season of life with work and preparing to be a momma, but my main goal this year to get more plugged in to my community (live in a different state than I grew up/went to school in) and build that group of people to support and be supported by. I plan to start by attending some group meetups around things I love to do like cycling and sewing💗
Yes… needed this today. We just moved into a new house and are trying to unpack while also taking care of a 2.5 year old and a 10 month old. It’s crazy town, I keep telling myself just unpack one box or organize one space. Feels so daunting but I know we will get there. This season of life is wonderful and also exhausting.
Thank you so much. I definitely feeling this in this season of life. I have an almost 7 year old, a 5 year old and a 7 month old. I keep thinking of all these things to do and goals to achieve and the comparison game (face palm) and then I step back and have to check myself- is this the time for this? Probably not. Is it ok to work towards those things and take my time? Yes.
I have had the “go all in” mentality and when I get an idea- get it done right now because it’s so exciting and that’s not realistic.
I want to work on the “Win the wait” mentality and try to have an “all or something” instead of all or nothing.
I love this explanation of realistic goal setting! Also… there is beauty in the surrender. Surrender to things that can’t be changed, embracing the here and now- all of it, is life.
Love this! One random goal I have for 2025 is to intentionally find gifts for my loved ones. I’m always super last minute and rushed with gifts and have always written myself off as a terrible gift person but this is one area I want to see change! I want to show love to those around me with thoughtful birthday/holiday gifts and shake the self-imposed title of being a “terrible gift giver.” Random but seemingly achievable for the next year!
Loved your comment about being SURRENDERED to your season of motherhood. AMEN.
I was going through goal planning and found myself seeking unrealistic goals for this season. I had to ask myself “what is the *feeling* I’m trying to attain with this goal?” By identifying the feeling I was pursuing I was able to make different, attainable, smaller goals that put me one step closer to that feeling.
Pinning this to the top of the comment section because YES. So good.
I love this so much 🤍 definitely something I’m going to journal on.
Ugh such a good reminder, Kate!! I am excited to dive into some goal setting and intentionality as the new year rolls in. I love your digital habit tracker and have been using it for a year now. I'm going to set aside a whole morning next weekend for me to do some goal setting and visioning for the year. Your video that you shared about will be how I start/prep for it!
MADISON!!!! You were randomly selected as the winner of the monthly giveaway! I'll shoot you an email in the next day or so to arrange shipping ◡̈ ◡̈ ◡̈
Thank you so so much, Kate!! What a sweet surprise. Appreciate your generosity!
Today is the perfect time to be talking about this - right before everyone sets beautifully ambitious New Year’s resolutions. To your point, we should have big dreams, but sometimes we need to be more honest with ourselves about the season we are currently in and what’s possible. It’s so demoralizing to set yourself up to fail before you even start.
There aren’t many words of wisdom that I carry with me from the corporate world, but one that I do is “we always overestimate what we can achieve in a year, and underestimate what we can achieve in five years.” Sometimes seasons of our lives fit in this framing.
“we always overestimate what we can achieve in a year, and underestimate what we can achieve in five years." YES YES YES
I hope you’re navigating the double newborn/toddler phase well enough. What a beautiful and challenging time.
I needed this desperately today! It feels like I woke up and my firstborn had grown from “baby” to “toddler” overnight, and I’ve struggled to adjust my expectations for what my life will look like. But this is a great reminder of something my dad used to say to me: We can do *anything* we want, but not *everything* we want! So making goals to cook more, move more, read more, make career moves, get involved in the community, AND still be the mother & wife I want to be? Notttt gonna happen.
Instead I think I will focus on ~balance~ as my inspo word for 2025. Read once a week, batch cook once a week, move my body 5 minutes, meditate 5 minutes, STUPID SIMPLE goals. But also giving myself grace because, HOLY MOLY, I’m a mother now and my life has changed more in the past 14 months than in the previous 5-10 years combined 🫠.
I am one of the weirdos who love the newborn stage, but i found the sort-of-baby/sort-of-toddler stage SOOOO hard! That was def my toughest stage of parenthood with Miles so far. No advice, but just sending solidarity & encouragement. You've got this!
Such a refreshing read that I definitely needed to hear! Thanks for your words of wisdom Kate!!
Adore you, Tianna! And always appreciate your comments & support. ✨ XX, Kate
This landed in my inbox smack bang when I needed it! Hubby and I are having a lunch date tomorrow (first actual ‘date’ out together since having our little boy a year ago…) and I’ve told him I want to use some of the time to set some goals and areas of focus for 2025 together- this is exactly what i needed reminding of to make sure we keep ‘em attainable and realistic for our season of being thick in parenthood with two little ones! Thank you! 🙌🏼
Love this!! 👏
Thank you for this reminder! I’m having to adjust some of my goals for the new year because of things going on in life currently, so this post inspired me to adjust accordingly!
“Your goals should aspire you, not overwhelm you.” Appreciate the reminder!
Needed to hear this!!!
A great reminder!!
This is such a good mindset to have toward making goals for the new year! I’m in a busy season of life with work and preparing to be a momma, but my main goal this year to get more plugged in to my community (live in a different state than I grew up/went to school in) and build that group of people to support and be supported by. I plan to start by attending some group meetups around things I love to do like cycling and sewing💗
Yes… needed this today. We just moved into a new house and are trying to unpack while also taking care of a 2.5 year old and a 10 month old. It’s crazy town, I keep telling myself just unpack one box or organize one space. Feels so daunting but I know we will get there. This season of life is wonderful and also exhausting.
Thank you so much. I definitely feeling this in this season of life. I have an almost 7 year old, a 5 year old and a 7 month old. I keep thinking of all these things to do and goals to achieve and the comparison game (face palm) and then I step back and have to check myself- is this the time for this? Probably not. Is it ok to work towards those things and take my time? Yes.
I have had the “go all in” mentality and when I get an idea- get it done right now because it’s so exciting and that’s not realistic.
I want to work on the “Win the wait” mentality and try to have an “all or something” instead of all or nothing.
Great post, resonates perfectly.
Wait, "all or something" is brilliant. LOVE THIS.
I love this explanation of realistic goal setting! Also… there is beauty in the surrender. Surrender to things that can’t be changed, embracing the here and now- all of it, is life.
YES. Life becomes a lot more enjoyable when I stop trying to force what I think a day "should" look like and embrace how it *actually* looks.
Love this! One random goal I have for 2025 is to intentionally find gifts for my loved ones. I’m always super last minute and rushed with gifts and have always written myself off as a terrible gift person but this is one area I want to see change! I want to show love to those around me with thoughtful birthday/holiday gifts and shake the self-imposed title of being a “terrible gift giver.” Random but seemingly achievable for the next year!