One lesson that I have been forced to learn over and over… and over again:
I don’t always need to approach life with such urgency.
While, sure, I am proud of my innate drive, I tend to approach things with, um, a little bit too much gusto 😅 (…do you relate???)
If I have an idea, I immediately research it.
If I have a moment of free time, I start to fill it.
If I have a goal, I instantly want to take action.
If I have a bucket list item, I can’t wait to plan it.
Perhaps it’s the deeply engrained “life is short” messaging that causes me to be scared of not living up to my potential, missing my “shot”, passing up a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, vacation, experience, etc.
….but at the end of the day, that’s just scarcity talking 🤷🏻♀️
Because if I REALLY believe in an abundant life, I can trust that something that’s truly meant for me, will👏🏼 not👏🏼 miss me.
Because, the truth is…
This really isn't the stage of life where I can live selfishly, constantly chase new ideas, travel the world, or relentlessly tick off bucket list items like I once did. Instead, this chapter’s predominant focus is being the best mom I can be, maintaining my career, keeping up with responsibilities, etc. Life is full! And while I love this stage, there simply isn’t much time (or, frankly, energy) for all of my ideas right now. And that’s okay.
Because I’ve figured out a different, more peaceful way of thinking about bucket list items, goals, and beyond…
✨A REMINDER:
All of those big goals? They don’t NEED to be accomplished right this moment.
Those great ideas? I don’t have to take action on all of them. I can choose wisely.
My career hopes, ambitions, and passions? They are in motion, and WILL come in time.
My daydreams and plans for marriage, our family, and my motherhood journey? There is no rush. All I can do is be present in this life stage.
Those dream vacations, potential hobbies, & bucket list items? I have my WHOLE LIFE to see those places & do those things!
Because while having goals & hopes & ambitions ARE important, they don’t always need to happen *right this second*
(And this is NOT about postponing your joy or your dreams and saving everything until “someday”… but moreso being *patient* with these ambitions to come to fruition in their own time)
✨…because life is both short AND long✨
➡️ Yes, it’s beautiful to approach life with vigor & drive & action.
➡️ …but it also can be beautiful to soften to the journey, take your time, be patient, and to TRUST.
To trust that everything will unfold in its time. To trust that you have years and years ahead to accomplish your goals. To remember that life really IS long (..in a beautiful, freeing way).
So, my friend, let this be a reminder that not everything needs to happen right now. Not every idea needs action. Not everything needs to be “marked urgent”.
Because, of course, it is beautiful that there are so many things that I want to accomplish & experience in this one sacred lifetime of mine, but I am also remembering…
I have time.
I have time.
I have time.
XX,
I have noticed such a shift in myself since becoming a mom as well. I used to latch onto an idea and dedicate as many waking moments to it as possible, for 8 or more hour stretches on weekends. Now I actually relish the breaks and the fact that I can dedicate maximum 3 hours. There’s a feeling of peace and ease that comes with taking my time.
Needed this reminder!! 👏🏻 Many of my current goals DO have deadlines, but not all… and I end up applying deadlines * I have made up* to every.single.thing. Which has been a joy sucker!!Loved this pick-me-up post :)