an impromptu message to the mamas...🕊

(a love note to all parents and parents-to-be)

Something I've heard so much since becoming a parent is that "every baby is different" (which is true, by the way), but I'd also like to remind you of this…

✨Every MOTHER is different, too✨

We are all unique individuals, and as a result, we are all going to parent in our own unique way too—

It’s so obvious, but yet, often gets forgotten.

In today’s motherhood culture, it's easy to fixate on the "right" thing to do. To compare. To contrast. To question. To criticize. To seek perfection.

To look outside of ourselves for "answers".

But, the truth? There has never been one singular perfectly “correct” way to do anything— motherhood included.

You may approach baby sleep differently than your neighbor does. You may breastfeed your baby, while your best friend exclusively pumps, while your other friend prefers formula. You may prefer a relaxed, go-with-the-flow approach while your co-worker prefers more structure & predictability. You may stay-at-home with your kids while your cousin utilizes daycare, and your college roommate has a nanny. Your labor might've looked different than your sister's or your best friend’s did. You may be taking a different route introducing solids than your mom did.

…and I’m here to remind you that. is. OKAY!

We are ALL going to parent in a slightly different (or, um, very different) way from one another, and truly accepting that is so freeing.

• Are ANY of us the “perfect” parent? Absolutely not.

• Will we ALL make mistakes in parenthood? Undoubtedly.

• Are there things we would maybe change or do differently? Sure.

• Are we going to grow & evolve & learn as we go? Without a doubt.

• But are most of us just trying OUR bests? Yes. Yes. Yes.

… And do ALL of us have our own unique gifts as a parent? YES. YES. YES.

🌸 My friend, the way that you nurture, feed, care for, play with, and approach motherhood is unique to YOU. And that's the beauty of it! That's the freedom of it! That's the JOY of it! 🌸

So, stop looking outside yourself for answers that don’t exist— and, instead, lean into the internal whispers & the natural instincts that you have as a parent.

It's funny because people often ask me what my "parenting style" is, and, to be honest?

Just the Kate Eskuri style.✌️

…and I don't say that in a smug "I, Kate Eskuri, know best" kind of way, but moreso

That I am just doing *my* best,
That I am trusting *my* gut,
That I am following *my* instincts,
That I am doing what works best for *my* family and *my* unique situation.

And that likely WILL look different from you.
From them.
From others.
From relatives.
From friends.
From society.

And there’s a peace that comes from really *accepting* that.

Because, as similar as we may be, NO two mothers will ever be the same. (Which deserves to be *celebrated*, not compared😉)

So, just a reminder—

There has never been (and will never be) one, singular, perfect "right" way to parent. Point blank, period.

So, give yourself permission to do it in the way that is magnetic & natural & aligned to you.

Because no one (like, literally no one on earth) could raise your kiddos in the exact, special way that *you* do it.

You’ve got your own unique magic, mama.

Own it.
Trust it.
Celebrate it.

And always follow your gut.

XX,

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