🍼 Postpartum Update: The Highs, the Lows, and Everything in Between
oh, baby!
Hello, my friend!
I have officially made it through the “4th trimester,” and wow.
There’s really is nothing like the time warp of the newborn bubble. Life simultaneously seems to slow down and speed up in tandem— days blur together in a haze of sleepy snuggles, endless feedings, diaper changes, and the tiniest, sweetest milestones.
And today, I’m coming at you live with a thorough update— my postpartum journey, what it’s really like to have newborn twins, and how I’m adjusting to being a mom of three (THREE!).
It’s madness.
Magical madness.
But madness nonetheless 🤣
As with most of my motherhood content, this update focuses on MY personal journey rather than diving into a ton of specifics about my children. Moreso, I want to offer my perspective as a mom in her early 30s—seeking to navigate the elusive balance of motherhood, career, marriage, household, and trying to maintaining a sense of self and personal identity throughout it all. 🤪 Writing about this wild ride feels so therapeutic for me, and I hope you enjoy reading this postpartum update as much as I’ve enjoyed sharing it.
I actually started writing this back in early November, during those very fresh, early postpartum days when my husband and I were both on parental leaves— gosh, such a tender, sacred, and, um, sleep-deprived time.
Then, I’ll also bring you up to speed with a few updates how things are now— after I’ve [at least partially] emerged from the newborn haze and we have both returned to work.
To be honest, it feels like I have two completely distinct versions of postpartum to catch you up on: those early days when everything was new, we were both on leave, and the outside world seemed to pause. And now—back in fullblown reality with work, countless responsibilities, and three full-blown kids in the mix!
✨ We’re slowly settling into what feels like (dare I say?) normal life— well, a new version of it. ✨
… and I have a lot to say.
I want this to feel like one of our coffee catch-ups, so I recorded all the nitty-gritty details podcast-style (press play at the bottom of this post! 🎧). But don’t worry— I’ve also written out a brief overview of each response for those of you that prefer to read about it!
My greatest strength as a twin mom: Someone asked me this recently, and I was sort of surprised by what came to mind
What drains me the most as a twin mom: It’s quite random & ordinary, but it happens all the time in everyday life…
How I’m feeling in this postpartum season—physically, emotionally, and energetically
What it’s like breastfeeding TWO babies at once and how it’s compared to feeding my singleton. Spoiler alert: it’s a lot more difficult.
Life with newborn twins—the best parts, the hardest parts, and everything in between
How sleep has been going— or not going!
My intentional steps to recover from a tough pregnancy and slooowly ease back into a workout routine that feels right.
What’s going well (many things! ☺️) and what’s been difficult (also, many things! 😅)
A glimpse into our daily flow in this chaotic season of life with twins and a toddler— how I’m feeling, what I’m hoping for, and how we are finding our new rhythm.
✨ To hear the thorough answer to all of these topics, press play at the bottom of this post (a 58-minute podcast episode!), or scroll through to read ◡̈ Enjoy!
Just a heads up—there’s a free preview for all subscribers, with full access reserved for paid subscribers. ◡̈ I totally get it—hitting the paywall is annoying. But the support from paid subscriptions is what directly allows me to dedicate the time and effort into this weekly newsletter (especially during this busy season of life!). Plus, it feels so much safer and cozier to share more personal topics, like motherhood, with a smaller, supportive community. 🤍 Thanks for your understanding!
Let’s start on a positive note!
In a recent Q&A, someone asked me about my greatest skill as a twin mom. And while having two babies is undoubtedly chaotic, I honestly feel meant for it in some strange way?
So, after some thought, I’d say my greatest strength as a twin mom is my ability to balance structure *and* flexibility— and carry both with equal importance.
In general, our family thrives on consistent rhythms— not strict schedules or rigid routines, but small daily habits. Whether it’s automatically changing the twins’ diapers before a feed or always reading two books before bed with my toddler, those little moments of predictability feel grounding and bring a sense of calm to our days.
For me, this light structure gives me some mental peace, like a quiet reassurance that I know what to expect (at least a little!🤣) from the day ahead.
….But I’m also am surrendered to the fact that I will totally have to pivot and be flexible often.
Because, with twins, there’s double the unpredictability— if one baby skips a nap, one baby has difficulty latching, etc— I am good at flowing with it & adapting & not making it too big of a deal if can’t have our typical routines or schedules or they are out of sync.
I just pivot.
And get back to “normal” as soon as I can.
And, honestly? This attitude took time. With my firstborn, I was more fixated about our rhythms— but having twins has forced me (and inspired me) to find that elusive dance of having loose plans and predictable habits— but being totally willing to bend when life calls for it.
(Because, guess what, life often calls for it!)
So, yes, I think that’s my superpower— being Type A enough to set us up for success with some preparation and consistency, but also being Type B enough to flex and adapt when life calls for it. It’s about knowing that no day will ever look exactly the same, but somehow, it all works out in the end. ◡̈
(PSSSST: I challenge you to reflect on this question too! It was empowering to think of what *my* special sauce is, and we all have our own unique magic!)
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