Ugh. Thank you for the gentle tough love. 😂 Your post reminds me of a favorite lesson from the book The Artist’s Way: perfectionism isn’t a tool; it’s a *block* preventing us from moving forward. One quote said, “What would you do if you didn’t have to do it perfectly? Probably a lot more than you’re doing now.”
In my travels, too, I’ve learned that there’s always an ideal plan and a gets-the-job-done plan (I guess Plan A and Plan B). Sometimes I get so worked up about wanting my well-researched Plan A to happen that I suck away all of the joy waiting for me in spontaneous, flexible Plan B.
Your post was a great reminder that the way to the finish line is taking the first step, not staring at the map!
Oooh this is so good! Thank you!! I’ve literally been researching and pinning pictures for MONTHS for this wall in my living room that I want to put art on. Like it’s such a simple thing?? And I have all the art and pictures. But I put it off because I want to find the perfect shelves, the perfect layout, I hate hanging things, yada yada. If I don’t try, it will never get done!
Oh wow, did I need this today. There have been so many times in my life where I live in this pattern of researching and not doing because I'm afraid doing without enough research will lead to me doing something the "wrong" way or not in an efficient way. Unfortunately, I waste more time doing this. Some things I just need to do include organizing and decluttering my home, having a productive system for checking in with my finances and yearly goals on a monthly cadence.
Ugh. KATE. Gosh, this hit me right in the gut. Exactly what I needed to hear today. (Hello, chronic overthinker here 🙋🏼♀️) My "would love to do someday when I have time" list gets longer by the day. Thank you for this and for your transparency. It's so helpful! Now off to just go do the dang thing!!
Kate, how do you know what I need to hear, when I need to hear it!!? 👀 Just the kick-in-the-butt I needed today. THANK YOU for sharing your thought-out thoughts 🥰 Going to do something with the motivation I am feeling right now!
I LOVE THIS KATE! It’s so so true and exactly what I needed to read in the moment. I’ve got a big change coming up in my life and I’m nervous and excited and don’t know how it’ll work but know I’ve just gotta go for it and let it unfold.
Oh wow! This hits hard. It’s so weird - I bop between the most spontaneous person you’ve ever met who will do anything at the drop of a hat and also the most chronic Google-r/planner/perfectionist. Felt this in my soul! When I find myself in the latter, I just force myself to GET OUT THE DOOR! The rest will figure itself out :)
Also - gearing up for a Norway, Denmark, and Sweden trip in less than a month, so loved the duality of this post!
SAME. I relate to this so much. I am either the most “go with the flow” person orrrrrrr the “flow” must be perfectly planned & orchestrated to my liking 🤣🤣🤣
SUCH a good reminder, Kate! All the answers are usually found in the *doing* vs the planning. And way to go on traveling with your 8-month-old! We took my daughter to England (my husband's home country) when she was 6-months-old and while it was definitely extra work (and lots of extra luggage!), it was so rewarding to travel with her and experience the world through her fresh eyes. Even though she won't remember the actual details of that trip, I hope the feelings she had set her up for a lifetime of joy with traveling. We're actually taking her back to Europe next month (at 19-months-old) and I can't WAIT to see how much fun she has on this trip, too. Plus, it'll be a little easier not having to worry about breast milk and pumping 30,000 feet in the air this time around. :)
I am for the most part, a dive right into the deep kinda girl but there are somethings... Usually it's the (maybe I'm too scared) well eventually the perfect time will present itself, feeling. But I definitley notice it coming on strongest when I hold the most fear around it. Planning a week to write alone in a cabin... haven't done it. Started a front yard garden... the neighbors might watch me epically screw this up. Going to the Meow Wolf while I'm in Denver... fear of the unknown and looking out of place.
Thank you for sharing this post and the realness of the research and then more research and then just doing it. I appreciate your wisdom always <3
YES. Exactly!!!! Like, the sheer *amount* of time I put into thinking about, outlining, planning my 8-week wellness course.... instead of actually just BUILDING IT. It took so long to get over that intimidation!
Ugh. Thank you for the gentle tough love. 😂 Your post reminds me of a favorite lesson from the book The Artist’s Way: perfectionism isn’t a tool; it’s a *block* preventing us from moving forward. One quote said, “What would you do if you didn’t have to do it perfectly? Probably a lot more than you’re doing now.”
In my travels, too, I’ve learned that there’s always an ideal plan and a gets-the-job-done plan (I guess Plan A and Plan B). Sometimes I get so worked up about wanting my well-researched Plan A to happen that I suck away all of the joy waiting for me in spontaneous, flexible Plan B.
Your post was a great reminder that the way to the finish line is taking the first step, not staring at the map!
OMG OMG OMG "“What would you do if you didn’t have to do it perfectly? Probably a lot more than you’re doing now.”
AMAZING
Oooh this is so good! Thank you!! I’ve literally been researching and pinning pictures for MONTHS for this wall in my living room that I want to put art on. Like it’s such a simple thing?? And I have all the art and pictures. But I put it off because I want to find the perfect shelves, the perfect layout, I hate hanging things, yada yada. If I don’t try, it will never get done!
Oh wow, did I need this today. There have been so many times in my life where I live in this pattern of researching and not doing because I'm afraid doing without enough research will lead to me doing something the "wrong" way or not in an efficient way. Unfortunately, I waste more time doing this. Some things I just need to do include organizing and decluttering my home, having a productive system for checking in with my finances and yearly goals on a monthly cadence.
Ugh. KATE. Gosh, this hit me right in the gut. Exactly what I needed to hear today. (Hello, chronic overthinker here 🙋🏼♀️) My "would love to do someday when I have time" list gets longer by the day. Thank you for this and for your transparency. It's so helpful! Now off to just go do the dang thing!!
Yes, yes, yes! From one over-thinker to another, we've GOT THIS!
Kate, how do you know what I need to hear, when I need to hear it!!? 👀 Just the kick-in-the-butt I needed today. THANK YOU for sharing your thought-out thoughts 🥰 Going to do something with the motivation I am feeling right now!
Heck, yes, my gal! We ALL (me included) need a kick in the rear sometimes. Excited for your burst of action & to hear any ahas you had!
I LOVE THIS KATE! It’s so so true and exactly what I needed to read in the moment. I’ve got a big change coming up in my life and I’m nervous and excited and don’t know how it’ll work but know I’ve just gotta go for it and let it unfold.
“Just go for it & let it unfold” YESSSS. So powerful!
Oh wow! This hits hard. It’s so weird - I bop between the most spontaneous person you’ve ever met who will do anything at the drop of a hat and also the most chronic Google-r/planner/perfectionist. Felt this in my soul! When I find myself in the latter, I just force myself to GET OUT THE DOOR! The rest will figure itself out :)
Also - gearing up for a Norway, Denmark, and Sweden trip in less than a month, so loved the duality of this post!
SAME. I relate to this so much. I am either the most “go with the flow” person orrrrrrr the “flow” must be perfectly planned & orchestrated to my liking 🤣🤣🤣
SUCH a good reminder, Kate! All the answers are usually found in the *doing* vs the planning. And way to go on traveling with your 8-month-old! We took my daughter to England (my husband's home country) when she was 6-months-old and while it was definitely extra work (and lots of extra luggage!), it was so rewarding to travel with her and experience the world through her fresh eyes. Even though she won't remember the actual details of that trip, I hope the feelings she had set her up for a lifetime of joy with traveling. We're actually taking her back to Europe next month (at 19-months-old) and I can't WAIT to see how much fun she has on this trip, too. Plus, it'll be a little easier not having to worry about breast milk and pumping 30,000 feet in the air this time around. :)
Omg, that makes me SO HAPPY! Safe & joyful & happy travels! Exactly-- it is never *easy*, but it is WORTH IT!
I am for the most part, a dive right into the deep kinda girl but there are somethings... Usually it's the (maybe I'm too scared) well eventually the perfect time will present itself, feeling. But I definitley notice it coming on strongest when I hold the most fear around it. Planning a week to write alone in a cabin... haven't done it. Started a front yard garden... the neighbors might watch me epically screw this up. Going to the Meow Wolf while I'm in Denver... fear of the unknown and looking out of place.
Thank you for sharing this post and the realness of the research and then more research and then just doing it. I appreciate your wisdom always <3
YES. Exactly!!!! Like, the sheer *amount* of time I put into thinking about, outlining, planning my 8-week wellness course.... instead of actually just BUILDING IT. It took so long to get over that intimidation!
I’m so behind on here but man-- I am stuck in this phase with a certain project...perfectionism is certainly holding me back! I needed this read 🙌🏻
Great topic recommendation!!!